Hi there, I’ve had a lot of people ask me the question “what’s it like going from one to two babies” the answer in short? HARD but it’s also amazing.
Going from just me and joe to me, joe and Alfie was a shock to the system. All the self centred-ness goes out the window. As a mother you instantly change to be the best mother you can be to your baby. Your no longer just you. Your mom. And that to me was the most amazing gift I’ve ever received. But then to go from 3 to 4 is hard. The hardest part for me was when I was in hospital after just having baby W I couldn’t breath very well from the “light pressure we put on your belly to assist baby out” I was in horrendous pain and Alfie came to see me and he didn’t want to come near me he cried and wanted to go home. That was hard. My little beat friend didn’t want me. I hated that. Little did I know that it wasn’t me he didn’t like nor was it Walter. It was the fact I was in hospital. After this I knew I had to do everything in my power to get out of hospital. Of which I did. Probably a little to early but I was out 24 hours after having my c section. I was just finding myself as a new mom again and he stepped up. Stepped up more then I could ever have imagined. He took on the role of “big brother” so well. And if it wasn’t for him I don’t think I’d have coped with the transition from one baby to two babies so well.
I knew that I needed to bring him apart of everything because I didn’t want him to feel left out at all because just because there’s another baby that takes a lot of my time and attention it doesn’t mean I don’t have enough time and attention for him. So I ask him to get me the wipes or the nappies etc, he quickly became so in love with Walter and he will sit next to him whilst he’s doing tummy time and I love that. The first few weeks are always a blur from being sleep deprived and in a new baby bubble, but I know that he was so star struck with Walter.
The hard part for us now is leaving the house taking so so long. Who to get in the car first. Or do give Walter a bottle or do I clean up alfies drink that he’s dropped? There is time for everything and Alfie understands that I won’t always be able to do things straight away but I will get round to it. Without him i wouldn’t be the mother I am today and I’m so proud of him. I hope one day he understands that mommy might have bad days. She might have shouty days but I still love them both with all my heart.